The Care and Keeping of Your Demisexual

When the Friend Zone is the Doorway Photo by Christiana Rivers on Unsplash “If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends. Make it last forever; friendship never ends” — Spice Girls “Would you like to come back to my place?” she asked with a clear intention. We’d danced half the night away, and had… Continue reading The Care and Keeping of Your Demisexual

Kissing Frogs and Red Flags

The Art of Missing the Warning Signs Photo by Esteban Lopez on Unsplash “Loving a person doesn’t make them who you desire; it makes you vulnerable to their reality.”― Abby Fabiaschi Trigger warning: Physical violation and assault discussed I was sitting there trembling, breathing deeply, my sense of self gone. This followed an emotionally exhausting conversation, that should have… Continue reading Kissing Frogs and Red Flags

See Me, Hold Me, Love Me

The Politics of Receiving Love Photo by Shahzin Shajid on Unsplash “The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is… just to love and be loved in return” — Nat King Cole We stood embracing each other, this beautiful lithe woman I adored in my arms, partially enclosed in the trench coat she was wearing. Beneath she wore only sheer lingerie, garters… Continue reading See Me, Hold Me, Love Me

Love Architecture

Applying the Lessons of Polyamory, Relationship Anarchy and True Friendship to Every Relationship Photo by Crew on Unsplash “There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved.” — George Sand I stood behind her with my arms wrapped around her waist, holding her close to me. Her hands rested on mine and the scent and feel… Continue reading Love Architecture