Valuable, Handle With Care

Coming Up For Air After Healing Photo by Ester Marie Doysabas on Unsplash “The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it…” — Nicholas Sparks I was dancing alone on the crowded night club floor, just lost in the beat and the music. I’d paused as a small group of fellow club… Continue reading Valuable, Handle With Care

The Care and Keeping of Your Demisexual

When the Friend Zone is the Doorway Photo by Christiana Rivers on Unsplash “If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends. Make it last forever; friendship never ends” — Spice Girls “Would you like to come back to my place?” she asked with a clear intention. We’d danced half the night away, and had… Continue reading The Care and Keeping of Your Demisexual

The Tao of Loneliness

Misadventures In Being Authentic in Dating Photo by Noah Silliman on Unsplash “Loneliness is the human condition. No one is ever going to fill that space. The best you can do is know yourself; know what you want.” — Janet Fitch She fumbled for my hands as she danced with me. I could see she was drunk and completely out of… Continue reading The Tao of Loneliness

Jealousy and Insecurity, Compersion and Confidence

How Not To Feed the Green-Eyed Monster and Tell Your Brain to Shut Up Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash “Jealousy is a disease, love is a healthy condition. The immature mind often mistakes one for the other, or assumes that the greater the love, the greater the jealousy — in fact, they are almost incompatible; one emotion hardly leaves room… Continue reading Jealousy and Insecurity, Compersion and Confidence

See Me, Hold Me, Love Me

The Politics of Receiving Love Photo by Shahzin Shajid on Unsplash “The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is… just to love and be loved in return” — Nat King Cole We stood embracing each other, this beautiful lithe woman I adored in my arms, partially enclosed in the trench coat she was wearing. Beneath she wore only sheer lingerie, garters… Continue reading See Me, Hold Me, Love Me